My Feng Shui Experiment: Better Sleep & Relationships!

I noticed 2 different ways of calculating my homes Bagua, Classic and Western. I studied both enough to be able to determine which connected with me best. A Feng Shui Bagua is basically an energy map of your home that determines which areas of your space are related to different aspects of your life. I chose to go with the Classical as it went more based on direction rather than just based on my front door. Because the direction of my house is relevent since the direction does 'exist', I really felt like I should take that into account. The western method seems to focus more on just the inside of the house not really taking the direction of the house into account as much as with the Classical method. This decision was not too much of a surprise to me as I tend to like learning the classic methods when I begin something new. Get the root info first, you know? I mean, how can you truly know something if you are basing your knowledge on modified ways? This is also the way I went with reiki, learning the original Shiki Ryoho Method of Healing developed by Dr. Usui.

I then started my Feng Shui journey by learning how to calculate the Bagua of my home using the Classic method. I found this video to be very helpful and it was a base to my learning.

I should probably explain what brought me to Feng Shui in the first place. Although all my new found spiritual learnings and reiki had helped me in many aspects of my life, my relationship with my husband was struggling. We loved each other dearly but kept hitting snags in our communications together and in many areas we could just not find a point of cooperation and understanding. This was a huge problem as we both knew we loved each other so very much. Something was off… In fact, something was off since we had moved into the house we were living in. I started to realize that I may have found the key as to why!

This led me to my first 'experiment'. And I say 'experiment' because although I put complete trust in believing, I really like to see results to prove the theories and methods I adopt.

The first thing I noticed was something about our bed. I discovered during my research on the subject that our bed was in what they call the 'mortuary' position. Which was probably not the best thing for our relationship. Just the name of the position seems to say it all! Not only was my bed facing the door but it was perfectly aligned with the door!

Then, I read about the importance of a firm steady headboard. Well, we had no headboard! Hmm, things were starting to make some sense. Reality was, our headboard, if anything at all was a window! Our bed had been in that position since we had moved in. I had wanted to move the furniture around in the past but my husband was reluctant saying that the bed 'looked' good where it was. I asked him to make a compromise and try out something new for just one month. If he didn’t like it, we could change it. He agreed that it was worth a try.

We started by moving the bed around to a better position in the room. We also tried to make sure the flow was good both aesthetically as well as energetically. We tried out best to make sure there were no poison arrows pointing at the bed noticing there were many. Once complete, we were pleased with the room. Things were getting better but the huge change happened when we finally purchased a proper bed. We had forgotten that our bed frame on the floor was but a temporary fix when we had moved in. Buying a real bed with an actual headboard was what made a major impact. Our place of sleep was finally a well positioned, relaxing, welcoming place to be. Things were better for my day to day but also in my relathionship, it was great! Up until a few weeks later…