Pause…to Know You Are Enough: Your Journey to Self-Worth

You see it reflected everywhere: Doubt. Lack of belief in the self. Not being confident in oneself. A feeling of “not good enough.” Perhaps you even see it reflected at yourself in the mirror.

At the core of so many emotional reactions is a lack of self-worth or feeling hurt by something someone else has done. Oftentimes, it is our biggest gift we question the most. This may be because it feels most vulnerable to put the thing we value most out there for everyone to see. What if they don’t like it? What if it doesn’t mean anything to them? What if, we think, I don’t matter? Yet in putting ourselves out there, we are able to share with others and let them know they are not alone. We are not alone. We are all connected. Isn’t it about time we all pull ourselves together and start acting like it?

I was first drawn to Emotional Intelligence because it was an opportunity to get to know myself better, and because it was something that I saw as so lacking in businesses and individuals everywhere. In working with clients before obtaining my certification in EQ, I would see emotional reactions happen in offices all the time. I noticed that in the moment, people didn’t realize what was happening to them, and many times their reactions were driven by a deeper sense of pain. People will often blame others in fear of their own weaknesses being exposed.

Having confidence in your skills and abilities stems from being emotionally comfortable in your own skin. It comes from believing in yourself and in what you do. It springs forth when you understand that your most profound strength can become your biggest weakness if you constantly question it.

Unless we are willing to look at ourselves at a deeper level, the feeling of being “not enough” will perpetuate.